How to be kind when you're upset with your partner

"A relationship is the concerted effort of two people who mindfully and enthusiastically work towards a shared vision. Despite the difficulties of daily life, partners are in charge of their own behaviour. While a couple grows together, they are not precluded from growing as individuals as well – in fact they must evolve as individuals to continually bring their “best selves” to their partner."
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