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| Candy, de Julie Blackmon |
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| American Gothic, de Julie Blackmon |
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| Lost Mitten, de Julie Blackmon |
Like this
If anyone asks you
how the perfect satisfaction
of all our sexual wanting
will look, lift your face
and say,
Like this.
When someone mentions the gracefulness
of the nightsky, climb up on the roof
and dance and say,
Like this.
If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is,
or what "God's fragrance" means,
lean your head toward him or her.
Keep your face there close.
Like this.
When someone quotes the old poetic image
about clouds gradually uncovering the moon,
slowly loosen knot by knot the strings
of your robe.
Like this.
If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead,
don't try to explain the miracle.
Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.
When someone asks what it means
to "die for love," point
here.
If someone asks how tall I am, frown
and measure with your fingers the space
between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.
The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.
When someone doesn't believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.
When lovers moan,
they're telling our story.
Like this.
I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.
When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.
How did Joseph's scent come to Jacob?
How did Jacob's sight return?
A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.
When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
he'll put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us
Like this.
Stuff for the boys
"I think the underlying subtext of almost all sex and dating advice, right now, is man versus woman, like the battle of the sexes. We [in the book] are the opposite. We're saying that all relationships should be win/win. If you want to have physical interactions with women, that's cool! Find women who want the same thing, and they are going to get what they want too! If you want a wife, find a woman who's also looking for a husband, who finds you attractive."
Tucker Max
Entrevista com Tucker Max, autor do livro 'Mate'
Mating Grounds link
Entrevista com Dr. Geoffrey Miller: Becoming the Man Women Want
Becoming the man women want: link
To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This
"It’s true you can’t choose who loves you, although I’ve spent years
hoping otherwise, and you can’t create romantic feelings based on
convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters; our pheromones and
hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.
But despite all
this, I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it
out to be. Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple,
even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to
thrive." Aqui
"A recent Modern Love essay
refers to a study that explores whether intimacy between two strangers
can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness." Aqui.
"The basis of the 36 questions is that back-and-forth self-disclosure,
that increases gradually (not too fast), is consistently linked with
coming to like the other person you do this with. We just made it a
systematic method that could be used in the lab. In more recent
research by Harry Reis and colleagues,
another factor is also proving very important -- being responsive to
the other's self-disclosure! These factors are important for both
starting a relationship, and even more important, for its continued
quality." Aqui.
THE 36 questions “scientifically” proven to help people fall in love — aqui
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