Amizade / Friendship
Sentido de humor / Sense of humor
Criatividade de pensamento / Creative thinking
Honestidade / Honesty
Respeito / Respect
Liberdade / Freedom
Genuinidade / Uniqueness
Assertividade / Assertiveness
Compaixão / Compassion
Abertura / Openness
Curiosidade / Curiosity
Tolerância / Tolerance
Social psychologists have developed a simple activity, called a values affirmation, that can restore our sense of equilibrium.
Valores / Values
da literatura
One Day there was a Man that always pooed every
were so this is what He Did to a Kid, a Mom, and a
Baby that talked. So a Man pased by a kid and the
Man needed to Go Poop But there was no rest room
so He Just Saw a kid and Hee needed to do number
4 He needed to takE a DUMP. So He Jumped and He
Pulled Down His Pants and He Put His Butt
on The Kids Face and He Pooped. and when He
saw a MOM he Pooped on Her too. and then
when He Realy needed to go Poop he Pooped
on a Baby and The Babst tasted The Poop
and The BaBy said YUM YUM GiMMy More
and The Baby could walk So the BaBy
chased Him and the Man Got a stick and
Hit Him in The Face and The BaBy Fell.
Jared Schickling
Mais aqui.
do paradoxo
"Creative people have a great deal of physical energy, but they're also often quiet and at rest. They work long hours, with great concentration, while projecting an aura of freshness and enthusiasm...This does not mean that creative people are hyperactive, always "on." In fact, they rest often and sleep a lot. The important thing is that they control their energy; it's not ruled by the calendar, the dock, an external schedule. When necessary, they can focus it like a laser beam; when not, creative types immediately recharge their batteries. They consider the rhythm of activity followed by idleness or reflection very important for the success of their work."
"Creative people tend to be both extroverted and introverted. We're usually one or the other, either preferring to be in the thick of crowds or sitting on the sidelines and observing the passing show. In fact, in psychological research, extroversion and introversion are considered the most stable personality traits that differentiate people from each other and that can be reliability measured. Creative individuals, on the other hand, seem to exhibit both traits simultaneously."
"Creative people's openness and sensitivity often exposes them to suffering and pain, yet also to a great deal of enjoyment... Being alone at the forefront of a discipline also leaves you exposed and vulnerable."
Csikszentmihaly's list of 10 complex personality traits of creative people.
[but, oh how very familiar!]
"These three seeming contradictions -- energy/rest, extroversion/introversion, and openness/sensitivity -- are not separate phenomena but are intimately related to one another and along with other traits form the core of the creative performer's personality."
Scott Barry Kauffman
Solitude / da privacidade
"Contemporary Western culture makes the peace of solitude difficult to attain. The telephone is an ever-present threat to privacy. In cities, it is impossible to get away from the noise of motor traffic, aircraft, or railways. [...] Hence, the menace of 'Muzak' has invaded shops, hotels, aircraft, and even elevators. Some car drivers describe driving as relaxing, simply because they are alone and temporarily unavailable to others. [...] The current popularity of techniques like 'transcendental meditation' may represent an attempt to counterbalance the absence of silence and solitude which the modern urban environment inflicts upon us. [...] Removing oneself voluntarily from one's habitual environment promotes self-understanding and contact with those inner depths of being which eludeone in the hurly-burly of day-to-day life.
... e o prazer de ler no café, digo eu.
... e nem falemos na invasão da privacidade causada pela incorrecta utilização das redes sociais.
Não confundir solitude com loneliness.
da aquiescência / sim papá, sim mamã / O Rei Vai Nu
"Throughout most of his professional life, Winnicott was particularly preocupied with whether an individual's experience was authentic or inauthentic. Many of the patients whom he treated had, for one reason or another, learned as children to be over-compliant; that is, to live in ways which were expected of them, or which pleased others, or which were designed not to offend others. These are the patients who build up what Winnicott called a 'false self'; that is, a self which is based upon compliance with the wishes of others, rather than being based upon the individual's own true feelings and instinctive needs. Such an individual ultimately comes to feel that life is pointless and futile, because he is merely adapting to the world rather than experiencing it as a place in which his subjective needs can find fulfilment."
Anthony Storr, in Solitude - A Return to the Self
Sobre "compliance"
Leituras histéricas / o gosto pela leitura
Filmar jovens raparigas a ler uma livro à mesa. Até aqui, nada de novo. Entretanto, debaixo da mesa está um vibrador a funcionar! No princípio parece tudo normal, mas à medida que o vídeo vai avançando, as vozes começam a tremer e a leitura vai-se complicando. No final, o livro é abandonado em proveito de uma explosão de prazer!
Uma forma eficaz de nos fazer ganhar gosto pela leitura!
Bairro
"In the course of daily life, we habitually encounter many people with whom we are not intimate, but who nevertheless contribute to our sense of self. Neighbours, postmen, bank clerks, shop assistants, and many others may all be familiar figures with whom we daily exchange friendly greetings, but are generally persons about whose lives we know very little. Yet, if such a person disapears and is replaced by another, we feel some sense of loss, however transient. We say that we have become 'used to' so-and-so; but what we miss is mutual recognition, acknowledgement of each other's existence, and thus some affirmation, however slight, that each reciprocally contributes something to life's pattern. Relationships of this kind play a more important role in the lives of most of us than is generally recognized."
Anthony Storr, in Solitude - A Return to the Self
das relações humanas
"Transference, in the sense of the patient's total emotional attitude or series of attitudes toward the analyst, is therefore seen as a central feature of analytical treatment, not as a relic from the past, nor as a 'curse', nor even, as Freud later regarded it, as 'a powerful ally', because of the power which it gave him to modify the patient's attitudes. Today a psycho-analyst will usually spend a good deal of his time detecting and commenting upon the way in which his patients react to himself, the analyst: whether they are fearful, compliant, agressive, competitive, withdrawn, or anxious. Such attitudes have their history, which needs to be explored. But the emphasis is different. The analyst studies the analysand's distorted attitude to himself, and by this means perceives the distortions in the analysand's relationships with others. To do this effectively implies the recognition that there is a real relationship in the here-and-now, and that analysis is not solely concerned with the events of early childhood."
Anthony Storr, in Solitude, A return to the Self
Übermensch / The wake up call
O processo contínuo de superação.
It's only after we've lost everything that we are free to do anything.
Life
"We tend to remember either the highs or the lows because they produce more potent chemical reactions in the brain."
Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, in The Gifted Adult
da felicidade
"During the last ten years we have learned many new facts about happiness. But we have also learned that the word happiness does not have a simple meaning and should not be used as if it does. Sometimes scientific progress leaves us more puzzled than we were before."
Daniel Kahneman, in "Thinking, Fast and Slow"
In the mood for words
O uso de palavras que carregam um conteúdo emocional decresceu significativamente ao longo do século XX. Será que estas mudanças reflectem mudanças na nossa cultura?
Aqui.
