Selfie e a multiplicidade de espelhos

Aqui

Attention Seeking - Perguntar não ofende

Adam Phillips on 'Attention Seeking'

Q: Is criticism always shaming or does it have a useful function?

A: We're encouraged to believe that we should be good at taking criticism. That's a really impressive thing to be able to do. It certainly isn't my experience. I'd much rather be praised. Occasionally people say critical things that engage me and I'm struck by them, but I often feel got at. Now... that's me... I'm not saying that that's true to all of us (laughter). But I do think that there's something, that the risk is that criticism becomes the wish to shame. On one end there's a wish to modify, or a genuine question, and on the other end there's a wish to humiliate and it would seem to me much better if we stopped humiliating people and start asking them questions.


"The object is defined by the distractions to which it leads".
Devorah Baum

Understanding the Narcissist

Narcissist Parents are hurt machines to their children: here
What the narcissist fears the most: here
Raised by a narcissist: here
The narcissist's mantra: "You made me do it"
Are you a narcissist host?: here

Pensamentos fugazes

Em nome da alteridade.
Nós, o arrogante, narcísico e liberal Ocidente, berço do Peace and Love, do Naturismo, e do 'Bom Selvagem', herdeiro de grandes civilizações reflexivas do antigo Oriente, ainda infectado pelo lado obscuro, pudico, manipulador e prepotente patriarcado Cristão. Nós, o arrogantes, narcísicos e liberais Ocidententais, defensores do individualismo e do respeito pelo próximo, paradoxalmente, incapazes de vergar a cabeça enquanto seres que se desejam humildes mas, igualmente, incapazes de a levantar desviando o olhar do seu umbigo… Nós, portugueses, tementes, ainda na sombra de 48 anos de palmatória purista. É isso que queremos? Dar tiros nos pés?

 

Da pertinência, ou não, da nudez. Do tapamento, ou não, do corpo. Do voyeurismo disfarçado de bons costumes. Joana Amaral Dias, é esse o caminho! Subscrevo. Deixemo-nos de merdas (pardon my french). Todos os nossos gestos, todos os dias, são políticos. Riam-se, rir faz bem, mas não me venham falar de burcas!

Narciso

 • We treat people with respect because we innately believe they are worthy of it. Narcissists treat those close to them with disrespect. They only act respectful towards “outsiders” as a way of maintaining their image.

• We offer love and acceptance to others because we know that’s why we are here and because we enjoy it. Narcissists only take love and acceptance. That’s all they know since they operate only from ego.

• When conflict arises, we are able to let it go and move on. Narcissists must get revenge.

• We trust in the good of all people. Narcissists believe everyone is just like them.

• We like to help people feel good about themselves and feel relief when a conflict has been resolved. Narcissists like to fight.

• We take responsibility when we’ve made a mistake. Narcissists blame everyone else.

• We enjoy being compassionate. Narcissists enjoy being manipulative.

•We often participate in careers and hobbies that serve. Narcissists only do what serves them.

Aqui.