"Tal como havia de comentar, Sofia afastou as suas próprias aspirações por as considerar uma ameaça ao seu compromisso para com Tolstoi e o seu trabalho. Desde a infância que nutria um grande desejo de estudar arte e essa ânsia regressaria. Certa vez, na ausência de Tolstoi, quando ela lhe escrevia uma carta, a irmã dele, Maria Nikolaevna, começou a tocar uma peça de Schubert. Sofia descreve ao marido a sensação que a percorre:
Estou sentada no vosso escritório, a escrever e a chorar [...] Esta música que não ouvia há tanto tempo transportou-me para fora da minha esfera do quarto do bebé, das fraldas e das crianças [...] para um local distante e desconhecido [...] Há muito que reprimo estas cordas que a música e a natureza fazem estremecer e produzir tanta dor dentro de mim [...] Sinto-as agora. Magoa-me e é bom. Mas é melhor para nós, mães e mulheres da casa, mantermo-nos afastadas de tudo isso [...] Ouço a música, tenho os nervos em franja, amo-vos terrivelmente, contemplo o lindo pôr do Sol pela janela do vosso escritório
As melodias de Schubert que antes me deixavam indiferente transtornam-me agora a alma e não consigo conter as lágrimas [...] Em breve se acenderão as velas e eu serei chamada a amamentar [...] e este sentimento passará, como se nada fosse."
Alexandra Popoff, in Sofia Tolstoi – Uma biografia
do patriarcado
Sofia recorda Lev
Recordando o êxtase dos seus encontros, Sofia escreveria: "Mulher alguma poderia sentir um amor mais forte do que o amor que senti por Lev Nikolaevich [Tolstoi]. Não era bem-parecido, nem jovem e só tinha quatro dentes estragados na boca. Contudo, o júbilo que surgia em mim, quando estávamos juntos [...] esse júbilo iluminou-me a vida por muito, muito tempo."
Alexandra Popoff, in Sofia Tolstoi – Uma biografia
He Wants to Jizz on Your Face, but Not Why You Think
"Facials are degrading — and that's why they're so hot." So says America's leading sex columnist Dan Savage about the act of ejaculating semen on to someone's face. But the appeal of the facial can't be summed up with that single term. Rather, this act that's become the standard coda in porn is about much more than the longing to dominate or humiliate a sex partner. Understanding what makes it such a ubiquitous trope in adult movies (and in people's private sexual lives) means understanding a particularly male longing for acceptance."
Mais aqui
Stress and the immune system
"In the last twenty years or so, research has begun to support the theory that letting go of suppressed emotions can be beneficial to the physical body. This is especially true of stress, because so many studies have focussed on how that particular emotional state affects the body. One of the landmark stress studies was published in the New England Journal of Medicine in 1991*. In this study, 420 men and women first took surveys on a variety of factors, including their stress levels. Then, some of the subjects were given a nasal spray that contained saline, while the rest were given a nasal spray that contained the common cold virus (don't worry, they were all told ahead of time that this would be happening, although they did not know which spray they would get). Can you guess what happened?The ones who reported being more stressed initially developed a full-on cold, while the ones who reported being less stressed initially were better able to fight it off. Of all the factors listed in the surveys, stress was the only one that made a significant difference in the outcome. In other words, this study showed that holding on to stress makes you more vulnerable to developing disease.
Since this groundbreaking study, hundreds of other studies have shown that stress is associated not only with the common cold but also with more serious things like heart disease, autoimmune disorders, and cancer. It is still difficult for researchers to prove whether stress by itself can cause cancer, mostly because it would be unethical to make one group purposefully relaxed and then see which developed cancer. However, what researchers know for certain is that stress weakens the immune system, and the immune system plays a key role in detecting and removing cancer cells from the body."
Kelly A. Turner, in Radical Remission – Surviving Cancer Against All Odds
*Psychological stress and susceptibility to the common cold.
the gut and the brain / antibióticos / microbiome
Prebiotics foods:
Raw Chicory Root
Raw Jerusalem Artichoke
Raw Dandelion Greens
Raw Garlic
Raw Leeks
Raw Onion
Cooked Onions
Raw Asparagus
Raw Wheat Bran
Baked Wheat Flour
Raw Banana
on pleasure and interdependence
"A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle," the Second Wave feminist slogan assured us, but maybe the fact is, well, no. I now think that denial of this need for men for sexual pleasure in straight women's lives was not actually feminist and did not actually help heterosexual women. Obviously, straight women do not need just any man. It is an insult to these women to dismiss their longing for the one they feel is 'the' man, or to decide their morning if he is gone. Nor does this denial of the paradox of our feminine autonomy, coexisting unsettedly with our feminine need for interdependence, help lesbians or bisexual women understand why, so often, the need for the lover is so intense. This ideology does not help women of any sexuality understand why, often, the vibrator and a pint of Häagen-Dazs are pleasurable but that other longings for connections can remain strong. Men, too, find self-knowledge in facing their needs for connection."
Naomi Wolf, in Vagina
addicted to love
"But to respect the central paradox of the female condition — the sexual/emotional need of the Vagina and cervix — might mean that we need to face the fact that women are, in a sense, more easily addicted to love and to good sex with the person who triggers that heady chemical bath, than men are. The work of Dr. Daniel G. Amen, in 'The Brain in Love', along with that of many other neurobiologists whose work has not yet been "translated" into mainstream culture, suggests that some of women's behaviors currently seen as needy or masochistic are in fact better understood as natural and probably evolutionary responses to the brain changes caused by female orgasm. Good sex is, in other words, 'actually' addictive for women biochemically in certain ways that are different from the experience of men — meaning that one experiences discomfort when this stimulus is removed and a craving to secure it again. Bad sex with a selfish or distracted partner — is 'actually' chemically dispiriting and damaging psychologically to women in a way that is different from men's experience."
Naomi Wolf, in Vagina
of critical thinking
"The function of my comedy is not to provide answers, but to postulate questions and therefore, finally, pertinent questions. Not to open doors, merely to unlock them. Not to invade the boundaries of probability but stand a cool guard this side of the boundaries. Somewhere between there's a thesis. To pump up the muscle of dialectic (or in my case Di-Eclectic!) against the brawn of surrealistic solution.
I play not Hamlet, but the second gravedigger, not Lear but the fool."
Marty Feldman, in eyE Marty
The Dunning-Kruger effect
Self and Social Insight, aqui
How Accurate is Self-Judgment?
Do people recognize their own incompetence?
Do people overplay their beliefs about moral superiority over others?
Do people understand the impact of emotion on their behavior?
How Accurate is Social Judgment?
Can people predict the actions of others?
Do people understand the impact of emotions on other people’s actions?
How Does Self-Deception Work?
Does wishful thinking influence visual and auditory perception?
Does wishful thinking happen automatically–quickly, before it leaves a conscious trace?
How Do People Behave Economically?
How can we explain why people trust others when economists suggest they shouldn’t?
Do psychological rather than economic forces explain the choices that people
How Do People’s Views of Self Influence Their Judgments of Other People?
How Can We Tell Eyewitness Accuracy from Error?
The Dunning-Kruger effect
Self and Social Insight, aqui
How Accurate is Self-Judgment?
Do people recognize their own incompetence?
Do people overplay their beliefs about moral superiority over others?
Do people understand the impact of emotion on their behavior?
How Accurate is Social Judgment?
Can people predict the actions of others?
Do people understand the impact of emotions on other people’s actions?
How Does Self-Deception Work?
Does wishful thinking influence visual and auditory perception?
Does wishful thinking happen automatically–quickly, before it leaves a conscious trace?
How Do People Behave Economically?
How can we explain why people trust others when economists suggest they shouldn’t?
Do psychological rather than economic forces explain the choices that people
How Do People’s Views of Self Influence Their Judgments of Other People?
How Can We Tell Eyewitness Accuracy from Error?
A new era of ignorance
“We live in a world of radical ignorance, and the marvel is that any kind of truth cuts through the noise,” says Proctor. Even though knowledge is ‘accessible’, it does not mean it is accessed, he warns.
Aqui
Killing us softly / do patriarcado
How Boys Suffer
"Boys and men are supposed to be in control and invulnerable, and when they aren’t, they are ashamed. The shame turns into resentfulness, hate and self-loathing — a toxic brew, especially when guns and social media get into the mix."
But I do hope you can just listen and not let your pride be hurt - your future girlfriends will be grateful!
"Let’s set aside the “women
are equal, we’re in a post-feminism world/sexism is over” bullshit you came up
with. A quick search of a website called Everyday Sexism will prove you wrong.
I could send you 200 articles that disprove this. That’s a side issue! I’m not
saying that in sex, it all has to be gentle lovemaking. There is a time and
place for something a bit harder and faster, of course there is. But you’re not
going to get a girl to enjoy (rather than pretend to enjoy) what you do until
you slow down and tone down the aggression. You must think - I’ve made tons of
girls come! They all loved it! Maybe some did. In fact, with the head-pushing
thing, you cited the old “girls have told me they like that” line. You have to
understand that some women can be passive in bed and will quite often lie or simply
not speak up about what we want. It’s not statistically likely that every woman
who told you she liked to have a dick pushed down her throat was telling you
the truth! Sure, there are moments when women like to get fucked really hard,
but on the whole, we are just getting bad sex from men who bang away for their
own pleasure - it’s a cliché. I appreciated very much the verbal encouragement
and compliments. That felt great! But you also must know it’s yet another porny
behaviour, stolen from dialogue. (“Yeah baby, you suck cock so good, etc.- it’s
like something from a bad movie! I personally rather enjoyed hearing that, so
it’s not at all a problem for me, it was great to hear! But yeah, porno cliché,
lol)"
Mais: Everyday Sexism, aqui.
"The Everyday Sexism project aims to take a step towards gender equality,
by proving wrong those who tell women that they can’t complain because
we are equal."
But I do hope you can just listen and not let your pride be hurt - your future girlfriends will be grateful!
"Let’s set aside the “women
are equal, we’re in a post-feminism world/sexism is over” bullshit you came up
with. A quick search of a website called Everyday Sexism will prove you wrong.
I could send you 200 articles that disprove this. That’s a side issue! I’m not
saying that in sex, it all has to be gentle lovemaking. There is a time and
place for something a bit harder and faster, of course there is. But you’re not
going to get a girl to enjoy (rather than pretend to enjoy) what you do until
you slow down and tone down the aggression. You must think - I’ve made tons of
girls come! They all loved it! Maybe some did. In fact, with the head-pushing
thing, you cited the old “girls have told me they like that” line. You have to
understand that some women can be passive in bed and will quite often lie or simply
not speak up about what we want. It’s not statistically likely that every woman
who told you she liked to have a dick pushed down her throat was telling you
the truth! Sure, there are moments when women like to get fucked really hard,
but on the whole, we are just getting bad sex from men who bang away for their
own pleasure - it’s a cliché. I appreciated very much the verbal encouragement
and compliments. That felt great! But you also must know it’s yet another porny
behaviour, stolen from dialogue. (“Yeah baby, you suck cock so good, etc.- it’s
like something from a bad movie! I personally rather enjoyed hearing that, so
it’s not at all a problem for me, it was great to hear! But yeah, porno cliché,
lol)"
Mais: Everyday Sexism, aqui.
"The Everyday Sexism project aims to take a step towards gender equality,
by proving wrong those who tell women that they can’t complain because
we are equal."
