"Do you want to know what I think? Or do you want to know what I really think? [...] 'I hid myself within myself... and quietly wrote down all my joys, sorrows and contempt in my diary' — this is Anne Frank. [...] To hold parts of our experience not as a secret from others but as a 'foreign body' within ourselves. [...] I found it easy to spot the difference between the reality of relationship (being in sync with another person) and the pretense of relationships. [...] 'If I were to say what I was feeling and thinking, no one would want to be with me, my voice would be too loud,' seventeen-year-old Iris says, half to me and half to herself. And then looking straight at me, she adds with an edge of defiance: 'But you have to have relationships.' [...] Iris sees the paradox in what she is saying: she has given up relationship in order to have relationships, muting her voice so that 'she' could be with other people."
Carol Gilligan, The Birth of Pleasure
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