Now, once a-polly tito. You may think that doesn't sound quite right.
But believe me, once a-polly tito it is, and in this case it was
Goldyloppers.
Goldyloppers trittly-how in the early mordy, and she
falolloped down the steps. Oh unfortunade for crackening of the eggers
and the sheebs and the buttery full-falollop and graze the
knee-clappers. So she had a vaselubrious, rub it on and a quick healy
huff and that was that. So off she went, and
she went trittly-how
down the garbage path, and at the left right-hand-side goal she passed a
[sniff] poo-pom, it was hillows a humus heapy in the garbage! But never
mind. Erm... she lost her wail.
Now this is a sadness, dear
childers, because in the slight misty haze which all forry, let me tell
you, in the ephemeral forry there's always a fairy control where the
misty risey huff there, and so she was completely lost it. Oh folly,
folly. There was a cotty; so she went up, all ready with the basket and
picked up the butter and all that with a little bit of birch she scrape
it off and rub it and down her clothesee. Mum would be cross but...
never mind. Clop clop on the door. This little cotty had a jar on the
door, so she went in. Nobody there. Three baseload of porry on the
tabloid, all slightly steamy huff, and nobody at. She called out: [as
though down a cardboard tube] "Anyone home?" Nobody. Folly, folly, and a
little hunger was with her, so she falolloped a taste out of the first
basel.This was the large baseload and too oversalty for the flabe
p't't't spitty-how. Oh dear! Now the middload was a middle flabe which
was not too oversalt and a sugar flabe on her saliva glam and it wasn't
course quite satisfactual; so she did a tasty most in the little
baseload there, and it was a joy. And oh [gulp] (pardlo!) as she
stuffled it down! Oho dear! Now this was great, but there was also a
little tiredness in the Goldyloppers and she sat on a three-lebber stool
and -- tock falolloper! -- all the lebbers floating across the corm,
sat on her bocus there, bruisey most.Well, still there was no one
around, so she went brrrrrr tock up the stairloaders. And she found a
large
bedding, not a caypack that eiderdown but stuffled with feathers, but
here and there a stalk, as you know is a big feathersy eaglode and it
stuckening in her back; and it was most uncomfortipold. So she saw the
cotty, and in this cot she did lay down: [snore, zzzzz] deep sleevers
under the eiderdobe. Well, while she was this thus sleepy and a deep
dream of peaks, then up came the bears into the cotty. Now the
fatherbold bear looking around and say: "Who's been tasting and suffling
my porry? Ho ho, dear!" And then the mother bear look it in her
baseload of porry and said: [tube voice
again] "Who been tasting my
porry? Oohhhh, a bedder pinger!" So the small bear came and said: "Who
touches my baseload and falolloping all down, mum! Huh-ha-ho dear, look
it and empty and not scratching on the bottom!" And there was a
general consternail uproar and complaint about the three-lebbed stool
bear, all the bits and floaty, and so they had a looking it around the
houseloader. [Brrrrrr tock] Big bear, [higher pitch: brrrrrr tock]
middle bear, [higher still: brrrrrr ss't't] they all went up the
stairloaders, and soon there was a dent discovery in mum and dad's
bedling
when the dirty footmark of where she did her trottly
over-and-how and then into the cops't'k. And the little bear said: "Oh
lookadee, mum! There's a lying of some Goldyloppers!" But at this mode,
she jumped up in the middle of her deep dream and sleep peacey, [snore,
whistle] out of the windload, slide it and huffalo-dowder the
drainpikers, and through the forry fast awail!
And they all looked such consternail through the windload, they hadn't time to say: "You naughty girlage!" Huh-huh-huh-huh!
Aqui
Goldiloppers And The Three Bearloders
12 Reasons To Date A Woman Who Reads
1. You know she’s fine spending time on her own.
2. She’s empathetic.
3. She’s a critical thinker.
4. She has a sense of perspective.
5. She’s easily entertained.
6. She’ll be able to teach you things.
7. She’s curious.
8. She’s probably a good listener.
9. She’s easy to buy gifts for.
10. She has a great memory for detail.
11. She’s involved in the world.
12. And the best thing about dating a reader? She’ll
probably encourage you to pick up a book yourself, so you can reap all
the benefits reading has to bring. Plus, reading next to each other in
bed is so much better than playing Candy Crush.
Why? Follow link.
The sacred space
"Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it necessary?
Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?"
Shirdi Sai Baba
"I have been talking about the vital role that safety plays in creating lasting love. Two people cannot be passionate friends unless they feel safe in each other's company. Couples need to feel physically safe, to be sure, but they also need to feel emotionally safe. Without safety, they cannot say what's on their minds, express their full range of feelings, or be who they really are. They cannot lay down their armor and connect, even if they truly want to. We are all built that way. Danger activates our defenses."
Harville Hendrix, Getting all the Love You Want
on life and caring
"One of the deep secrets of life is that all that is really worth doing is what we do for others."
Lewis Carroll
Lewis Carroll
"When we were infants, unable to meet our physical and emotional needs, pain and pleasure came magically from the outside world. When the bottle or the breast appeared, our hunger was satisfied. When we were cuddled, we felt soothed. When we were left alone in our cribs to cry, we felt angry and afraid. As we grow older, our old Brain remained frozen in this passive worldview: good feelings and bad feelings were created by the actions of other people; we couldn't take care of ourselves; others had to do it for us. The part of me that hurt couldn't accept love from within myself because I had no way to receive self-love. Nor does anyone else. Salvation is not an 'inside' job; it is the outcome of being nourished by others."
Harville Hendrix, Getting all the Love You Want
Harville Hendrix, Getting all the Love You Want
cynicism
"But destruction alone, without construction to follow it, is hapless and lazy. Construction is far more difficult, because it requires the capacity to imagine something new and better, and the willingness to exert ourselves toward building it, even at the risk of failure. But that is also far more satisfying in the end."
Mais, aqui.
The power struggle
"Even today, I am impressed by how aggressively each of us defends our
seperate reality. It must be connected to our fear of the loss of self.
If I see it your way, I will have to surrender my way. If I feel your
experience, I will have to invalidate mine. If what you say is true,
then what I say must be false. There can be only one center of the
universe and that center is me! But if I muster the courage to suspend
my own point of view for a moment and then manage to see a
fraction of your reality, something miraculous happens. First of all,
you feel safer around me. Because I am no longer challenging your
worldview, you can start to lower your defenses. As you do this, you
become more willing to acknowledge a portion of my reality. Because I
have abandoned my centrist position, you are more willing to let go of
yours. To our mutual surprise, a drawbridge descends on its rusty
hinges, and you and I connect."
Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want
Oxytocin — The "cuddle" hormone
"Oxytocin's function in humans, many science writers assert, is to bond people to each other só they are better able to survive. Oxytocin also allows people to see the relationships between things and between people more clearly. David J. Linden reports that nasal oxytocin sprays that were designed to help new mothers release milk for lactation — the brand is called Liquid Trust — have been put to other uses. Those who inhaled the spray became more trusting of strangers, even after they had been betrayed in a game. They were more willing to take greater social risks. They were also more likely to see " the connections between things," meaning, in this case, they were better able to infer others' emotional states. In a famous experiment, oxytocin helped subjects correctly intuit another person's emotional state — when the subjects were given photos of human faces in which only the eyes were visible. "
Naomi Wolf, Vagina
Dopamine — The "decider" chemical
"Dopamine's optimal work in your brain is about flexibility in decision making: it helps you make the right decision at the right time for you in an ever-changing world," notes Dr. Pfaus. It is the "decider" chemical, the chemical involved in leadership and confidence building.
Naomi Wolf, Vagina
The fear of pleasure and other stuff
"People believe that separation opens their eyes to their self-defeating behaviors and gives them an opportunity to resolve those problems with a new partner. But unless they understand the unconscious Desire that motivated their dysfunctional behavior in the first relationship, and learn how to satisfy those desires with the new partner, the second relationship is destined to run aground on the same submerged rocks."
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"But there are other, subtler reasons the exercise works so well. One is that it helps people erode the infantile belief that their partners can read their minds. During romantic love, people operate out of the erroneous belief that their partners know exactly what it is that they want. When their partners fail to satisfy their secret desires, they assume that they are deliberately depriving them of pleasure. The romanticizing exercise prevents this downward spiral by requiring couples to tell each other exactly what pleases them, decreasing their reliance on mental telepathy."
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"Random reinforcement, one of the principles of behavioral science, is the idea that a pleasurable action loses its effectiveness if it's repeated with predictable regularity.
[...] A behaviorist would say that the reason routine gifts aren't as exciting is that the " psychoneurological system has become desensitized to predictable, repetitive pleasure. " [...] A curve ball needs to be thrown in now and then to pique their interest. "
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"I knew that when couples have fun together they identify each other as a source of pleasure and safety, which intensifies their emotional bond."
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"On a conscious level, we go to great lengths to seek happiness. Why, then, should we be afraid of it? To make sense of this reaction, we need to remember that the sensation of being fully alive is deeply pleasurable. When we were young children, our life energy was boundless and we experienced intense joy. But some of our pleasure was curtailed by our caregivers so that we could be safe and conform to social norms: " Girls don't yell and run." "Don't jump on the couch." "Be careful! Come down from that tree." "You're making too much noise." But our fun was also cut short because it threatened the repressed state of our caregivers. [...] As these limits were imposed on us, sometimes in punitive ways, we began to make an unlikely association between pleasure and pain. [...] On an unconscious level, this negative stimulus triggered the fear of death. Eventually we limited our own pleasure so that we could reduce our anxiety. We learned that to be fully alive was dangerous.
However, applying the strange logic of children, we didn't blame our parents or society for equating pleasure with pain; it simply appeared to be our lot in life. We told ourselves, "My parents limited my pleasure, so I must not have been worthy of it." It was somehow safer to believe that we were intrinsically undeserving than to believe that our parents were incapable off meeting our needs or had deliberately diminished our happiness. Gradually we developed a built-in prohibition against pleasure. "
Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want
On the nature of reality and our extended capacities
"The Institute of Noetic Sciences is a nonprofit organization dedicated
to supporting individual and collective transformation through
consciousness research, transformative learning, and engaging a global
community in the realization of our human potential."
Mais, aqui
The neuroscience of play
Sinopse:
"Play is abundant in the lives of those considered to be
creative. It facilitates social bonding, boosts productivity and
enhances your mood. As positive psychologist Christopher E. Peterson put
it, play is “…a robust predictor of how satisfied we are with our
lives.”
“We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
Artigo, aqui.
Like this
If anyone asks you
how the perfect satisfaction
of all our sexual wanting
will look, lift your face
and say,
Like this.
When someone mentions the gracefulness
of the nightsky, climb up on the roof
and dance and say,
Like this.
If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is,
or what "God's fragrance" means,
lean your head toward him or her.
Keep your face there close.
Like this.
When someone quotes the old poetic image
about clouds gradually uncovering the moon,
slowly loosen knot by knot the strings
of your robe.
Like this.
If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead,
don't try to explain the miracle.
Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.
When someone asks what it means
to "die for love," point
here.
If someone asks how tall I am, frown
and measure with your fingers the space
between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.
The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.
When someone doesn't believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.
When lovers moan,
they're telling our story.
Like this.
I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.
When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.
How did Joseph's scent come to Jacob?
How did Jacob's sight return?
A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.
When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
he'll put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us
Like this.
Stuff for the boys
"I think the underlying subtext of almost all sex and dating advice, right now, is man versus woman, like the battle of the sexes. We [in the book] are the opposite. We're saying that all relationships should be win/win. If you want to have physical interactions with women, that's cool! Find women who want the same thing, and they are going to get what they want too! If you want a wife, find a woman who's also looking for a husband, who finds you attractive."
Tucker Max
Entrevista com Tucker Max, autor do livro 'Mate'
Mating Grounds link
Entrevista com Dr. Geoffrey Miller: Becoming the Man Women Want
Becoming the man women want: link
To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This
"It’s true you can’t choose who loves you, although I’ve spent years
hoping otherwise, and you can’t create romantic feelings based on
convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters; our pheromones and
hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.
But despite all
this, I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it
out to be. Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple,
even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to
thrive." Aqui
"A recent Modern Love essay
refers to a study that explores whether intimacy between two strangers
can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness." Aqui.
"The basis of the 36 questions is that back-and-forth self-disclosure,
that increases gradually (not too fast), is consistently linked with
coming to like the other person you do this with. We just made it a
systematic method that could be used in the lab. In more recent
research by Harry Reis and colleagues,
another factor is also proving very important -- being responsive to
the other's self-disclosure! These factors are important for both
starting a relationship, and even more important, for its continued
quality." Aqui.
THE 36 questions “scientifically” proven to help people fall in love — aqui
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| Mais sobre este livro, aqui |
Sobre Deborah Tannen
She got up and went away
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| illustration by Stevie Smith |
Should she not have? Not have what?
Got up and gone away.
Yes, I think she should have
Because it was getting darker.
Getting what? Darker. Well,
There was still some
Day left when she went away, well,
Enough to see the way.
And it was the last time she would have been able. . .
Able? . . . to get up and go away.
It was the last time the very last time for
After that she could not
Have got up and gone away any more.
Stevie Smith
Unpublished Stevie Smith, aqui
Seremos um país de medrosos?
— Vê uma continuidade de carácter ao longo dos séculos no povo português?
"Repare na nossa luta contra os árabes, no princípio da nacionalidade: conseguimos conquistar território mais facilmente porque o Afonso Henriques e os outros não matavam os árabes. A maior parte dos alcaides foram feitos governadores civis. Já os espanhóis chegavam lá e liquidavam os alcaides: substituíam-nos logo e às vezes até os matavam. Nós fomos mais diplomatas."
— Quais são então as novas patologias?
"Há uma maior quantidade de traços de psicose, narcisismo, borderline. Porque há uma menor intimidade entre as pessoas. As relações são mais superficiais, menos íntimas, menos vinculadas, mais anónimas. De maneira que não há familiaridade. Deixou de haver a confiança, a colaboração mútua.
Isso é um efeito da vida urbana por contraponto à vida rural?
Claro, das grandes cidades. E do estilo de vida que as pessoas levam, também. Hoje as pessoas só são íntimas entre dois ou três amigos. No meu tempo era íntimo de todas as pessoas da minha aldeia. Mesmo nas cidades havia aquela coisa de bairro, as pessoas iam a casa uns dos outros. Hoje temos mais conhecidos do que amigos. Há uma diminuição da espessura afectiva dos laços."
Entrevista com António Coimbra de Matos, aqui
"You mean more to me than any scientific truth." *
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| Lagos Walden e Flint, Concord, Massachusetts |
Henry David Thoreau, Walden
Tarcovsky, Solaris */ J.S.Bach - BWV 639 Choral Prelude in F Minor
Who is really insane, the inmates or their cruel keepers?
Fit to be Untied
None or all — either all or none.
One cannot save oneself alone.
Either guns — or chains.
None or all — either all or none.
[refrão de Keiner oder Alle]
Outro link
D'amore si vive — BELÍSSIMO
Mais de nove horas de entrevistas acerca do que é o amor, a ternura e a sensualidade.
O trailer:
Um BELO excerto:
O documentário completo, aqui.
