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| Candy, de Julie Blackmon |
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| American Gothic, de Julie Blackmon |
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| Lost Mitten, de Julie Blackmon |
Like this
If anyone asks you
how the perfect satisfaction
of all our sexual wanting
will look, lift your face
and say,
Like this.
When someone mentions the gracefulness
of the nightsky, climb up on the roof
and dance and say,
Like this.
If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is,
or what "God's fragrance" means,
lean your head toward him or her.
Keep your face there close.
Like this.
When someone quotes the old poetic image
about clouds gradually uncovering the moon,
slowly loosen knot by knot the strings
of your robe.
Like this.
If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead,
don't try to explain the miracle.
Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.
When someone asks what it means
to "die for love," point
here.
If someone asks how tall I am, frown
and measure with your fingers the space
between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.
The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.
When someone doesn't believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.
When lovers moan,
they're telling our story.
Like this.
I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.
When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.
How did Joseph's scent come to Jacob?
How did Jacob's sight return?
A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.
When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
he'll put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us
Like this.
Stuff for the boys
"I think the underlying subtext of almost all sex and dating advice, right now, is man versus woman, like the battle of the sexes. We [in the book] are the opposite. We're saying that all relationships should be win/win. If you want to have physical interactions with women, that's cool! Find women who want the same thing, and they are going to get what they want too! If you want a wife, find a woman who's also looking for a husband, who finds you attractive."
Tucker Max
Entrevista com Tucker Max, autor do livro 'Mate'
Mating Grounds link
Entrevista com Dr. Geoffrey Miller: Becoming the Man Women Want
Becoming the man women want: link
To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This
"It’s true you can’t choose who loves you, although I’ve spent years
hoping otherwise, and you can’t create romantic feelings based on
convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters; our pheromones and
hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.
But despite all
this, I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it
out to be. Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple,
even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to
thrive." Aqui
"A recent Modern Love essay
refers to a study that explores whether intimacy between two strangers
can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness." Aqui.
"The basis of the 36 questions is that back-and-forth self-disclosure,
that increases gradually (not too fast), is consistently linked with
coming to like the other person you do this with. We just made it a
systematic method that could be used in the lab. In more recent
research by Harry Reis and colleagues,
another factor is also proving very important -- being responsive to
the other's self-disclosure! These factors are important for both
starting a relationship, and even more important, for its continued
quality." Aqui.
THE 36 questions “scientifically” proven to help people fall in love — aqui
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| Mais sobre este livro, aqui |
Sobre Deborah Tannen
She got up and went away
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| illustration by Stevie Smith |
Should she not have? Not have what?
Got up and gone away.
Yes, I think she should have
Because it was getting darker.
Getting what? Darker. Well,
There was still some
Day left when she went away, well,
Enough to see the way.
And it was the last time she would have been able. . .
Able? . . . to get up and go away.
It was the last time the very last time for
After that she could not
Have got up and gone away any more.
Stevie Smith
Unpublished Stevie Smith, aqui
Seremos um país de medrosos?
— Vê uma continuidade de carácter ao longo dos séculos no povo português?
"Repare na nossa luta contra os árabes, no princípio da nacionalidade: conseguimos conquistar território mais facilmente porque o Afonso Henriques e os outros não matavam os árabes. A maior parte dos alcaides foram feitos governadores civis. Já os espanhóis chegavam lá e liquidavam os alcaides: substituíam-nos logo e às vezes até os matavam. Nós fomos mais diplomatas."
— Quais são então as novas patologias?
"Há uma maior quantidade de traços de psicose, narcisismo, borderline. Porque há uma menor intimidade entre as pessoas. As relações são mais superficiais, menos íntimas, menos vinculadas, mais anónimas. De maneira que não há familiaridade. Deixou de haver a confiança, a colaboração mútua.
Isso é um efeito da vida urbana por contraponto à vida rural?
Claro, das grandes cidades. E do estilo de vida que as pessoas levam, também. Hoje as pessoas só são íntimas entre dois ou três amigos. No meu tempo era íntimo de todas as pessoas da minha aldeia. Mesmo nas cidades havia aquela coisa de bairro, as pessoas iam a casa uns dos outros. Hoje temos mais conhecidos do que amigos. Há uma diminuição da espessura afectiva dos laços."
Entrevista com António Coimbra de Matos, aqui
"You mean more to me than any scientific truth." *
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| Lagos Walden e Flint, Concord, Massachusetts |
Henry David Thoreau, Walden
Tarcovsky, Solaris */ J.S.Bach - BWV 639 Choral Prelude in F Minor
Who is really insane, the inmates or their cruel keepers?
Fit to be Untied
None or all — either all or none.
One cannot save oneself alone.
Either guns — or chains.
None or all — either all or none.
[refrão de Keiner oder Alle]
Outro link
D'amore si vive — BELÍSSIMO
Mais de nove horas de entrevistas acerca do que é o amor, a ternura e a sensualidade.
O trailer:
Um BELO excerto:
O documentário completo, aqui.
"Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it?"
"Blade Runner is adapted from the novel, 'Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?' written by award winning science fiction author, Philip K. Dick. [...] Just as the ghost of Dick's twin sister, Jane, affected his books, so too did the memory of Ridley's brother, Frank, affect his film. Mortality is present in Dick's novel. But under Scott's direction, 'Blade Runner' reshapes Dick's distopia into a story of two men: one who is dying and seeking meaning to his life, and the other, who because of their encounter gains a deeper understanding of who he is. And as the film reaches his climax, completely unlike the novel, one man sits and watches helplessly as a surrogate brother surrenders calmly to his death. While mortality and identity appear to be the film's commanding themes, there re others running through it's futuristic landscape. There are questions about zoology and technology, memory and authenticity. Then there is theology and biology. And biggest of all, humanity and equality. Yet another theme is urbanity and Blade Runner uses it to present a vision of the future. Paradoxically, that future can be found in the past. It's imagery is reminiscent of the 15th century paintings by Jeronymous Bosch. The film presents an appocalyptic view of Los Angeles, and even before we enter the City of Angels, the soundtrack hints that judgement day is at hand. In literary terms Dante Alighieri described hell with meticulous detail in his epic poem 'Inferno'. With those medieval illusions, Roy Batty has come to Earth in pursuit of more life, but all he finds is a world plagued with pollution, decay and a creator unable to help. Not unlike the knight returning from the crusades in Ingmar Bergman's 1957 masterpiece, 'The Seventh Seal'. It is not the only film we find in Blade Runner. You have 'Shanghai Express', 'Citizen Kane', 'The Maltese Falcon', 'Mildred Pierce', and 'Out of the Past'. Then there is 'Blow-Up', 'The Conformist', the films of Stanley Kubrick, especially 'Barry Lyndon', Scorcese's 'Taxi Driver', and Coppola's 'Appocalypse Now', and of course, Blade Runner itself has had an enormous influence on other films. You can take your pick from 'Akira', 'Ghost in the Shell', 'Brazil', the films of David Fincher particularly, 'Se7en', 'Dark City', 'The Matrix', another Dick adaptation: 'Minority Report', 'Batman Begins', and 'Wall-E'. This unusual use of focus is not mere affectation. It is a poetic flourish that encapsulates Roy's predicament: he has but a short length of life to live, and Ridley Scott visualizes that time by narrowing the space in which Roy appears in focus. Modern architecture is perhaps best exemplified by the skyscraper, and 'Blade Runner' uses enormous high rises to illustrate another of it's themes: social structure. Now, I don't say social order. This city teams with chaos. But undoubtedly, Blade Runner's society is avertical one of haves and have nots. These visions can be traced back to the silent era. Specifically 'The Crowd' directed in 1920 by King Vidor, and Fritz Lang's 'Metropolis', a year earlier. Langs masterpiece resembles these drawings by the Italian futurist Antonio Sant'Elia. While Sant'Elia's designs inform Blade Runner's vision of the city, it is the designs of an American architect, Frank Lloyd Wright and one of his buildings in particular that succinctly answers the key question of identity: who or what is Rick Deckard? There are several clues as to Deckard's real identity. The most emphatic of which emerge in Ridley Scott's final director's cut of 2006. But long before that and present in the film from as early as its pre-poduction stage is an architectural clue. These scenes set in Deckard's apartment are actually filmed in a house designed by Frank Lloyd Wright. Ennis House, built in 1924 is one of the landmark buildings in Los Angeles and features concrete blocks with very distinct details. Frank Lloyd Wright insisted upon these carvings after having visited the Mayan temple in Mexico. This is where Doctor Eldon Tyrell lives, and the silhouette of the Mayan temple echos above Deckard's apartment by way of the details on the walls. So the creator lives in the temple while his creation dwells in an apartment adorned with ornate carvings from the temple. Another important element is, of course, eyes. Note the manner in which the eyes of the known replicants are lit (?). The gift of sight brings with it the ability to recognize, and both are crucial steps in forming an identity. To recognize yourself is to see yourself. And that is important in understanding who you are. This is the 'Arnolfini Marriage' painted by Jan van Eyck in 1434. Examine the background and you will see the artist reflected in the mirror. But we don't know who took this photograph, because whoever took it doesn't know who they are. Ridley Scott has given us several great films and at least one masterpiece. But I think that Blade Runner is his most personal film. For me it belongs more to the museum than it does in the multiplex.
Mind Over Medicine / The amigdala and stress response / do bom senso
Palavra de ordem: aliviate your loneliness.
Dr. Lissa Rankin: "Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself" | Talks at Google
"My body is my business because I am the gate keeper of my mind"
Sobre Lissa Rankin
Institute of Noetic Sciences
Kelly Turner
Herbert Benson
Radical Remission Book Trailer with Dr. Kelly Turner
Os 9 factores chave:
– Radically changing your diet - aqui, aqui, aqui, aqui, aqui
– Taking control of your health - aqui, aqui, aqui, aqui
– Following your intuition - aqui, aqui, aqui
– Using herbs and supplements - aqui, aqui, aqui
– Releasing suppressed emotions - aqui, aqui, aqui,
– Increasing positive emotions - aqui, aqui, aqui
– Embracing social support - aqui, aqui, aqui, aqui
– Deepening your spiritual connection - aqui, aqui, aqui
– Having strong reasons for living - aqui, aqui, aqui
Herbert Benson - The Relaxation Revolution: Enhancing Health Through Mind Body Healing
Radical Remission Research - Dr. Kelly Turner, PhD at Integrative Cancer Conference
Surviving desire
He's desperate and his frustration mounts to overflowing before giving way to his final and audacious mistake. Finally he caves in, gives up and takes what is offered, because he knows he can, because he knows he wants. He lacks faith and, therefore, patience. The giving of himself has left him empty and old before his time.
Read it as a woman.
She's desperate and her frustration mounts to overflowing before giving way to her final and audacious mistake. Finally she caves in, gives up and takes what is offered, because she knows she can, because she knows she wants. She lacks faith and, therefore, patience. The giving of herself has left her empty and old before her time.
Hal Hartely, in Surviving Desire
Memory Hackers
Scientists have discovered how to 'delete' unwanted memories
A new documentary from PBS reveals how cutting edge science enables us to 'edit' memories - and create new ones from scratch.
Aqui
on Valentine's day
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| image by 'This Isn't Happiness' |
"However, flirtation is not without challenges. Communicating and determining romantic interest in social-sexual encounters are often masked by uncertainty—which is actually a key component of flirtation. Both the message and the interpretation are intentionally vague: uncertainty serves to protect the interests and reputations of participants, and adds an element of anticipation that makes the act seem more like a game, prolonging the excitement and extending the mystery of the encounter."
"The casually draped arm along the back of the sofa can lie there meaningless until the recipient reclines into that arm. Participants have to continuously indicate interest."
"It seems that men, more so than women, perceive partners as being more flirtatious, more seductive, and more promiscuous. They impart greater meaning to the act of flirtation."
"If you're a willing participant in a flirtatious exchange, regardless of where it ultimately leads, the meaning that you can surely take from the exchange is that you're admired. Happy flirting."
Aqui
Mother Nature, the healer
Mais coisas do patriarcado / food for thought
"Lippman files stalking under the broader umbrella of “persistent
pursuit,” which can also encompass “more benign and even positively
regarded behaviors such as some types of romantic courtship,” she
writes."
[...] "movies are more likely to portray men’s stalking as charming and women’s as crazy"
[...] “Stalker-type behavior in a man can make him a romantic hero but
the same behavior will almost always make a woman dangerous or
pathetic.” Aqui.
Fucking imposter syndrome
— "Boy! I'd hate to be your boyfriend! He must go through hell!"
— "Well, I'm worth it"
"Whatever works", diz a certa altura um personagem.
Juliette Lewis, an actress worth liking. Woody Allen too.
