Girls will be girls

"Jean Baker Miller (1976) [...] finds in psychology no language to describe the structuring of women's sense of self, "organized around being able to make and then to maintain affiliations and relationships ." But she sees in this psychic structuring the potential for "more advanced, more affiliative ways of living — less wedded to the dangerous ways of the present," since the sense of self is tied not to a belief in efficacy of aggression but to a recognition of the need for connection. Thus envisioning the potential for a more creative and cooperative mode of life, Miller calls not only for social equality but also for a new language in psychology that would separate the description of care and connection from vocabulary of inequality and oppression, and she sees this new language as originating in women's experience of relationships."
Carol Gilligan, In a Different Voice